i have never been a big reader, but i can't put it down. the curled up edge
that had to be flattened with that bear [hibernating] nearby.
let me also say that this is never going to become a parenting blog. i am the second oldest of seven and even though i have been around kids my whole life, i still don't feel like i know any more than the average parent. every kid and family dynamic is different and my husband and i are really just figuring things out as we go. i was talking to a dad with four and five year old boys at the playground recently and he said "oh, two and four - you are in the thick of it!" in many ways i hope he is right, but i'm not sure it ever really gets any easier, the situations only change. if you are a parent/grandparent with kids under the age of twenty, then i highly recommend this book. power struggles come in all different sizes and even the quiet ones can pull them off in a subtle way to where you may not even realize it. it is full of ways to diffuse situations before and even after they've begun. i also learned a lot about my own personality, which i did not expect.
i have implemented some of the tactics the past couple days and i can't believe the difference they've made and i'm not even finished with the book!
example // cole has a major sweet tooth and is always trying to find ways to work us over for a treat.
i told him "no" a couple times and offered other options like i often do. then i tried responding in one of the ways the book suggested. when he didn't get his way he didn't pout, but actually said...
"this is going to be harder than i thought."
i told him "no" a couple times and offered other options like i often do. then i tried responding in one of the ways the book suggested. when he didn't get his way he didn't pout, but actually said...
"this is going to be harder than i thought."
i had to turn away so he wouldn't see me smile. he walked away and
went onto the next thing and it didn't come up again - it was all the proof i needed!
went onto the next thing and it didn't come up again - it was all the proof i needed!
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